"Thanks to the rise of social media, news is no longer gathered exclusively by reporters and turned into a story but emerges from an ecosystem in which journalists, sources, readers and viewers exchange information."
- The Economist, July 7, 2011
By now you may have read the story about a high school football player in New Jersey named Yuri Wright. If you have, that's pretty impressive because Yuri Wright's story has come to light at a time when there are so many Super Bowl and Joe Paterno news stories as to black out the sun, or at the very least, create a total eclipse of any high school football story, and especially the Yuri Wright story.
Yuri Wright (via cdn.bleacherreport.net)
If you haven't read about Yuri Wright here is the deal: A high school football player at an all-boys Catholic high school in New Jersey, which happens to be a national football powerhouse, uses Twitter to publish his daily thoughts. Along the way the football player tweets a string of racist, sexist, and graphically explicit messages, which his high school deems to be so inappropriate they expel him from school before he completes his senior year. This story has become somewhat of a national news story because, I believe, Yuri Wright is a 4-star recruiting prospect and several big time schools that were recruiting him got wind of his expulsion and his crude and offensive tweets and rescinded his scholarship offer. Most notable among those schools is Michigan, but they were not alone.
However, not every university rescinded their offer of a college education to Yuri Wright. In fact, just yesterday Yuri committed to The University of Colorado. Andy Staples of Sports Illustrated wrote about all this earlier this week attempting to, I assume, turn Yuri's story into, more or less, a cautionary tale for prospective recruits about the dangers of tweeting distasteful things. Staples, of course, writes for big corporate media organization and so it is not completely surprising that his slant on the Yuri Wright story represents the point of view commonly espoused by powerful institutions. As Staples wrote:
"Wright committed to Colorado this week. This is not a reason to rip Colorado. Wright didn't commit a crime, after all. Still, the words we type have consequences. The maintenance of my own Twitter feed is not a job requirement, but SI would fire me in a heartbeat if I began unleashing streams of profanity on Twitter. My Twitter feed reflects my personal opinions, but those opinions reflect upon my employer."
Of course Yuri Wright does not work for his high school. He's not employed as a football player (per se) at his private high school, although I guess he might have been there thanks to some sort of financial aid package that was a consequence of possessing above average football prowess. The point is, Staples and others who've made note of Yuri Wright have all contextualized his story in a rather predictable way: Student makes haphazard use of social media and needs to learn to keep his offensive thoughts to himself because words that offend have serious consequence. And all that is well and good, but does little to try to understand the larger picture.

I happen to agree with Andy Staples that Yuri Wright is worth writing about but not as a lesson to football recruits to keep your twitter shut, but as a case study in what is a clear-cut generational difference between 17-year-olds who have grown up in the age of super-saturation as well as democratized media, a 24-hours "news" cycle, and an ever expanding internet readily available at a moments notice on smart phones, whereas their 50-year-old counterparts grew up in an America where the media was a tightly controlled corporate owned item for consumption and one of their most tightly controlled products was the national and local nightly news, and personal communication occurred face-to-face or over rotary (and later on, touch tone) telephones.
Let me first say that I find what Yuri Wright tweeted to be thoroughly revolting and embarrassingly stupid. Let me also say I do not excuse his tweets as nothing more than pumped up youthful macho boasting commonly found inside a high school football locker room, because even though male locker rooms are notoriously a locus for foul language and slurs we cannot excuse the words. He needs to be taught a lesson and I support what his high school did by expelling him. But I also think he deserves to go to college, even a reputable college, and he deserves to play football and become a much more mature, intelligent young man who will one day (if he hasn't already) look back on his tweets with enormous regret. Ultimately though, I find the Yuri Wright story a compelling topic because he is caught in the middle of a time warp. Public life is changing and has been changing at a pace that seems breathtaking to anyone who grew up side-by-side during a period that included pagers, cassette tapes and the Walkman. Since that time Americans have been forced to rethink issues of privacy, of socially acceptable behavior and the role of electronic communication in all this.
The Youth Will Be Served
When I was 17-years-old I had some very stupid, adolescent thoughts that resided in my head. I wasn't alone, I'm sure. To untangle those thoughts I rarely sought out my parents for advice and consent, even though dozens of poorly acted after-school specials encouraged me to do so. Knowing my parents then (and now) that might have led to some even more stupid thoughts. But I would, however, happily drink in the lyrics of music groups whose music I admired to help me make sense of thoughts and ideas about topics as diverse as love, gender, power and authority, war, nuclear power, and religion (to name a tasty few). Parents and adult institutions at the time knew kids did just as I did and they tried their best to censor certain music groups, block music albums from seeing the light of day and eventually this happened.
In retrospect, with the aid of time and experience, I realize now that Johnny Rotten was maybe not always the best source of advice. But, the truth is this was how many 17-year-olds thought at the time (and still do of course). One difference between 1980 and the time of Yuri Wright is that in my time no one outside of my immediate circle had access to those twisted, mangled undercooked thoughts inside my head. I didn't keep a journal or diary but if I had I'm not sure how many people would have been able to (or cared enough to) read it. Probably not many. I'm reasonably sure of this though, had more people had access I would have been even more disliked than I already was by those who disliked me. But I also might have had some people influence me in very positive ways. Instead of taking years to figure some things out it might have only taken me weeks. But that may be an oversimplification. My point is this: my generation and I will assume Andy Staples' generation and certainly the generation of most men who run college football programs was a far more private one.
As a very anecdotal example, consider the following. When I was 17-years-old there were these things known as telephone booths and in more than a few cases they looked liked something out of the future, but were very much something out of the past...
via bertc.com
...and inside those booths you had privacy that allowed you to speak to others without the outside world overhearing your conversation. They also were effective at walling out the occasionally distracting noises of public spaces. They're all gone now and today's generation, I would think, cannot really relate to the reason why such a contraption ever existed. Just as many of today's teenager cannot relate either to the kind of fear that often exists among older people of the thought of a semi-public communication of a tweet.
"It is now acceptable to say almost anything, about almost anyone, in a public space, and for no reason whatsoever. There is no line to step over, because such lines no longer exist. And I think those boundaries disappeared the moment people really, truly lost the fear of getting punched in the face."
- Chuck Klosterman
Chuck Klosterman suggests that we live in a time of "social overconfidence" that comes with technology such as Twitter, Facebook and the like, all of which insulates one from the fear that previously came before the advent of that technology and that might be a solid explanation for why Yuri Wright felt comfortable tweeting what he did and Andy Staples, to his credit, more or less suggests the same thing. I agree that for the typical 17-year-old with a Twitter account there might exist, as Klosterman suggests, a fair amount of social overconfidence but that is a term derived (however smartly) by an older man who is from an older time.
I feel it too. For example, I've never wanted or felt comfortable using my real name here at BHGP. I never once considered Match.com. I still look for a private space when I speak to anyone on my cell phone. I realize in the context of this time in human existence, that's silly and I realize that increasingly I am in the minority and I really, really wish I did not feel the way I do. It's a struggle for me to use Facebook. In my profile picture I am barely recognizable to even my own wife. But here's the rub, I had, for almost 20-years a professional obligation to "get over it" when I worked directly with students at a major university, and I did. While I never really totally embraced the contemporary views of privacy within my own life I certainly learned not to judge young people for their views of privacy in theirs. I made a conscious effort to accept the viewpoints of young people on the whole matter. And for one simple reason, because when I was a young person that's all I wanted from the adults around me, a sincere effort to understand and accept my world.
So, Yuri Wright is a very compelling story for me. As I read Staples I found myself asking, "Why is Colorado using a scholarship on this guy?" The cynic out there will say the struggling Buffaloes are leveraging this situation to get a player they would otherwise never get and crossing their fingers in hopes he's not a thug. And, frankly, I could see that. But if you work at an institute of higher learning you know that this is what all colleges and university do as a result of the admission process all the time. Kids apply to colleges and they publish their accomplishments in their application (nowadays many kids use the "Common App" or a common application, meaning even in the world of college applications kids today have to assume a more public persona) and admissions teams evaluate those accomplishments and try to determine if an offer of admission should be awarded. Then, if they do and the kid accepts, when the kid arrives on campus you hope they turn out to be a worthwhile risk. Because, at the end of the day, that is exactly what the admissions process is: a game of risk. You never know when you may be inadvertently accepting into your community a criminal waiting to happen, a student whose failure is almost assured, a square peg into your round hole. You just never know.
I've read over a thousand college applications in my day and after about the 100 mark I realized two things: this is too much power for any one person to have (or even any 10 persons or 20 for that matter) and every applicant looks different and the same simultaneously. Kids whose success I thought was absolutely certain, a guarantee, failed out. Kids whose admission I thought was a supreme roll of the dice graduated near (and in one case) the head of their class. Sure, our admissions office had sophisticated computer programs that was supposedly able to improve the quality of assessment of our incoming classes, but the company who sold us that software only made that claim in terms of looking at tens of thousands of applications. But I was often sent the application of those students who fell right on the line, and asked for an opinion one way or another. It was, in the end, an impossible task. I might as well have turned them all over and shuffled them and grabbed the lucky application and sent it back with my full support. My point is, when you look individually at people they become infinitely more complex and when you're talking about young people, forget it, anything is possible. Which brings us back, again, to Yuri Wright.
Yuri Wright made a mistake. He may not realize that right now but his words were hurtful and should not be tolerated. But his words have become enormously public, more public than I think he ever imagined in his wildest dreams. He used privacy settings on his Twitter account that he thought would limit his readership to only those he approved. And perhaps he thought he could trust those he approved to use their discretion (for lack of a better word) with his words. Perhaps he thought this was all a big joke and so he never cared just how private his words would or would not be. Maybe he's a deeply insecure kid who's massively inexperienced about sex, race, sexuality and Twitter. Whatever the case, he's more complex than we are able to see and The University of Colorado might just be thinking this is what we do, we take risk and then go to work making young people smarter and more mature.
Go back and read the quote I offered up by Andy Staples though, because his ultimate point is in there and it is shared by a ton of people his age and older and may be shared by you, right now. He says if he wrote the things that this 17-year-old high school football player wrote he would be "fired." In other words, Yuri Wright should have known better and someone needs to punch him in the face.
Well Andy, I am almost certain your message of hope is lost on any recruits who maybe you hoped to influence with this piece because no mature minded person should, and certainly no adolescent would expect Yuri Wright to possess the wisdom and experience of a seasoned journalist with a college degree and perhaps several more decades of time on earth, and it's apparently lost on you that he's a product (unfinished as he is) of this time, and that you are too, which accounts for your lack of effort to explain or bridge that gap. Your advice to the Yuri Wrights of this world is essentially dead on arrival because the standards you've put forth in this article are out of touch with reality.
In fact, so out of touch are your standards that I don't think you were ever seriously trying to warn kids of anything. I think you were trying to fire up your base at the expense of Yuri Wright. Just as Michigan may have been doing. And that's your right and theirs. In doing so, though, you make no effort to tap into a more likely reality that Yuri Wright is a confused kid who used his Twitter account like a journal or a diary. More than a few people were able to and decided to read it, in fact he'd approved over 1,600 to have access to his tweets suggesting to the Andy Staples of the world that Yuri's not particularly discriminating editor but suggesting to me he's desperate for attention. He of course didn't try to stop them from reading it either and probably wanted, even, a good many of them to read it. And the feedback he's received has been pretty tough stuff. He got himself expelled and lost a few good opportunities to attend some very good universities. And one could completely understand if the lesson he learned, the one you, Andy, are trying to foolishly convey, is that "Hey, if I never had a Twitter account I'd be graduating from high school with all my friends and going to Michigan on scholly right now." Which is not much of a lesson at all. Instead, this kid is going to get a much more valuable and immediate lesson through the instant feedback that is an integral and essential feature of Twitter, and instead of years down the road realizing those homophobic, racist and sexist thoughts inside his head are wrong, he is learning that lesson RIGHT NOW.
But someone, thankfully, is willing to take him in under their wing nevertheless, and try to make a man out him. They may fail. He may fail himself. But that's a risk they're willing to take because -- I hope -- they understand on some level that endeavor is a far more sophisticated task than the one in which Andy Staples endeavored. I wish them the best too. Because I know first hand that when you're able to teach the seemingly unteachable, it is as rewarding as it gets.
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N.B.: I don't really begrudge Andy Staples for writing what he did. He's doing his job. I just wish we could see more depth on these sorts of issues than the standard fare we often get. I give Staples credit for making note of this story and allowing me to get fired up about it enough to write this piece.
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SMA wins the day.
Even the title is great.
SomeJerkPoster - January 26, 2012
Awesome
One of the things I have put a lot of time and research into is social media. The ‘MySpace’ generation that quickly turned into the ‘facebook’ generation which gave way to the ‘say whatever is on your mind via twitter’ generation is one that is difficult to comprehend. In academic circles, research suggests that this ‘social overconfidence’ as Klosterman puts it is really stemming from a narcisistic sense of always getting to say what you want to say when you want to say it (not much unlike these comment threads, huh?). What I always found interesting, however, was the amount of influence social conversations could have.
That in and of itself sounds ridiculous, though. We live in an extremely individualistic country by definition, but we are seeing a generation raised on the notion of extreme community – the internet generation works across geographical divides that would have probably kept comments like this contained 20 years ago… if not 5 years ago. The question that I am trying to understand is how does any of this matter? I mean, maybe learning to communicate effectively via a communal sense is important, and while I agree this kid made very stupid comments that have no place anywhere, is it fair to completely ostracize him when we are all just trying to figure out what the hell it is we’re doing now?
Anyways, I loved the thoughts. I had read this story, but didn’t put too much thought into it. I might have to do some more research now.
KennardHusker - January 26, 2012
How "graphically explicit" are we talking when it comes to the kid's tweets?
the notorious r.d.m. - January 26, 2012
jfgi
sailorjerry - January 26, 2012
I think they're on Deadspin somewhere
Use the Googles.
mikjones24 - January 26, 2012
most of them were rap lyrics i believe, but mostly about getting pussy, using the n word, cant trust his mom so he’ll never trust a bitch, starvin for pussy, he hates bitches that are weed whores
mostly just lil wayne lyrics i believe,
waterboy31321 - January 26, 2012
Tipper Gore is pissed right now.
mikjones24 - January 26, 2012
HAHAHA...
first AND second time reading i thought it said “geographically explicit”. i was gonna say… what in tarnation is geographically explicit?!
lmlions21 - January 26, 2012
strait bullshit
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
It was a good read
honestly im glad that people are now being held accountable somewhat for what they say on the internet. i wish they would extend that to X-box live, if i had a nickle for every time i was called something that made my ears bleed i would be rich beyond my wildest imagination. .
justsomehawkeyefan - January 26, 2012
SMA - this is incredible.
Thanks for the great article/essay.
I’m going to a conference next week about how greatly Yuri’s generation differs even from people born 10 or 15 years before him. This is timely and provocative stuff.
I’ve seen young people do stupid things with social media. I’ve also seen members of my generation who love, and I mean really LOVE to contort complicated situations to fit their simple framing regarding youth and social media. “Dumb kid does dumb thing with dumb new media” is a lazy story, but one that those who don’t like young people or social media love to seize on.
I’m sure that a balance will be reached. People will become increasingly aware that their online lives are more public than they are tempted to think. Although Twitter and Facebook feel as intimate and familiar as your next thought, they are far more public. At the same time, society is going to have to accommodate the quasi-private public sphere of the Internet.
Our last three presidents are admitted drug users. In thirty years, every president will have posted something stupid on the Internet. We’ll get over it.
The Final Gun - January 26, 2012
Love me some SMA
Also, I’m totally socially overconfident.
jtothep - January 26, 2012
If 1500 people had access to my 17 year-old thoughts,
then things would have not turned out well. Luckily, very few people actually got to hear about the crap going on inside my head as a teenager.
Unfortunately, teenagers these days don’t have that luxury. They are really no different than teenagers from days of yore in that they are stupid, narcissistic and prone to doing dumb s**t. The difference is that it is much easier for everyone to see what you are saying or doing.
Social media does not make people stupid, it simply allows makes it easier for others to confirm that you are in fact stupid. It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.
Enoch - January 26, 2012
kids were dumb then and are dumb now, but there seems to be more stupid shit to influence kids now than there was 15-20 years ago
waterboy31321 - January 26, 2012
Not just influence
but document. Which is more to the point of the article.
I did plenty of reckless and/or illegal things as a kid. I had all kinds of messed up 16 year old thoughts, but there’s no proof. Once that tweet goes out, or the video goes online, you may as well figure it’s there forever and all the wrong people will see it. Kids don’t truly understand what that means and worse, they don’t care. Because they’re kids.
Flakbait - January 26, 2012
Because their kids of an age
I would argue. When I was a kid, I was raised to believe no one gave two shits what a kids had to say. That has WAY changed.
StoopsMyAss - January 26, 2012
That's part of it
but every generation has it’s share of attention seekers. Parenting is way different, in some ways it’s better, in others it’s worse. Overall, I think kids today are going to have a way tougher job of adjusting to a world that doesn’t give a damn than we did.
Flakbait - January 26, 2012
"Children should be seen and not heard"
My dad still says this to me.
I know that when I die, depending on the timing, 2-3 people will spend more than a few minutes thinking about me. A few relatives may be upset for a few weeks. I am a disposable cog in genetic wheel and my existence is essentially meaningless to all but a very few people.
People who think they are special need to prove it or shut the fuck up.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
I need a drink
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
-the father said after brushing his son aside to open the fridge.
sailorjerry - January 26, 2012
This is a philosophy developed after years of the following:
1.) any personal accomplishment being followed by a reminder that there is always some one out there who is better than me.
2.) any personal disappointment being followed by a recitation of my personal failings and a reminder that people with Multiple Sclerosis have it worse than me.
3.) Having, on multiple occasions, been interrupted by the radio volume on Rush Limbaugh or Jim Rome being turned up and then being told that no one had heard anything I been talking about and would I please be quiet.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
One of my favorite stories of my dad. Honestly, it is pure gold.
I was 9 and my sister was 7.
Dad: Kathryn, you are very smart and have a lot of athletic talent. Nick, you are just going to have to work harder than other people.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
How many times since
Have you punched him in the face?
jtothep - January 26, 2012
He fights fucking dirty
and don’t want to hurt an old man.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
Being old and frail
Was about the only thing that saved my ole man from youngest brother one night ten years ago. That and me and a couple bong hits.
Almost all fathers don’t know what the fuck they’re doing. Getting manhood and education together on the same page is a tough thing for dudes with children.
jtothep - January 26, 2012
Still
That’s not to excuse bad parenting. Throughout time, many a father has gotten a well-deserved ass-kicking from his grown kid.
jtothep - January 26, 2012
Ha
Yeah, he isn’t too bad, but he has deserved a black eye or two over the years.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
I need a couple drinks
FYI, my middle brother had the same negative reinforcement from our dad his whole life, while the other two of us he gave excellent positive reinforcement. It is no surprise that my middle brother is the only one of the three of us to have some pretty deep social anxiety issues. I’ve forgiven my father for a lot of his shitty doings, but that’s one I never will.
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
Eh
I think it was truly a compliment. My dad thought of himself that way. I think he values hard work over talent. I don’t think my sister ever really understood that he was actually identifying with me and not so much complimenting her.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
maybe I'm projecting too much
from the issues of how my father treated my middle brother. i think I get what you’re saying, and we have different points. Ignore my comments.
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
Oh, no problem
You have a point. I just try to laugh off a lot of his stuff. Mostly because I know that he tries hard and just doesn’t know a better way to say what he wants to. I am thankful that I had a dad like him and not one who treated me like I walked on water.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
I have to chime in on this, too.
I always thought my father was a little too difficult toward me. Other than a few medium-to-light spankings as a toddler, and maybe him grabbing my arm once or twice, he was never physically abusive toward me. I also think he cut down on his beer after he had kids, so that probably helped him think and talk issues out, rather than get too angry.
But I do recall having my mistakes pointed out a little more often than I’d have liked (and they were pretty minor mistakes. I think the worst thing I did as a teen was help some friends go tee-pee someone else’s house one night).
I was never a good athlete, but I went out for baseball, basketball, and football throughout junior high, and football throughout high school. I was in the band, and I was reasonably smart for my class (not a candidate for valedictorian, but always taking some advanced or accelerated classes and always getting B’s and A’s without too much struggle).
I never appreciated having to pay for my own car insurance, but I did have a car for most of high school (albeit, my first one was a pretty ridiculous ’68 Impala that got some ridicule from my classmates and even a teacher).
And yet, I realize that my Dad was a pretty darn good one. He only pointed out my mistakes because he cared. His dad (my grandpa) suffered from depression throughout his life, so it is understandable if Dad wasn’t always hugging it out, or wasn’t always complimenting me when I didn’t really deserve it. My Mom and Dad were proud of the intelligence and good behavior of their three kids (me and my younger sisters).
And, of course, Dad and I could share our sports fanhood. We go to more Hawkeye football games now compared to when I was a teen, but we went to more Hawkeye hoops games back then. We still go to plenty of UNI sporting events (mostly hoops) together. It is cool to see my sisters become UNI hoops fans and they can share that with him.
I’m sure he’s not overly happy that I’m 30 and I don’t date much, but the lack of that and lack of grandchildren probably is more an issue for my Mom. My Dad was 30 when he got married to my Mom (who was 26).
I suppose, like all aspects of my life, I should be much more appreciative than I am. I’ve avoided most health issues despite my awful diet and fitness level. My grandparents all lived into their mid-80s or older (3 of 4 are still with us and living in their own homes). My parents and sisters are pretty healthy. I have a job, and I rent a home. I have pretty good relationships with the family members (immediate and extended) that still live in town. Really, I shouldn’t complain. I’m sure I will, at some point, though.
I’d bet our parents are probably more proud of us than we all admit. If you have a job, and are staying out of the slammer, then your parents probably feel pretty happy with you.
WaterlooChazz - January 26, 2012
Generational dynamics
would be a fascinating discussion too.
Like, how emotionally open the average person is from the “Greatest Generation” vs the “Baby Boomers” vs Gen X vs Gen Y vs Millenials.
WaterlooChazz - January 26, 2012
what an appropriate, lengthy, and personal exposee
when discussing online privacy and its generational borders
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
And this is why I can't trust people on the Net.
Unless you were being serious, because then I thank you.
WaterlooChazz - January 26, 2012
Of course I'm being serious
I thought we had long ago ironed out any issues we had. Because I did not intend any sarcasm there.
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
My bad.
As we all know, taking comments at face value, as well as successfully perceiving actual sarcasm, are not my strong suits.
Please forgive my ornerycity. (If Tyger can make up new words, so can I).
WaterlooChazz - January 26, 2012
I'm here for you Chazz. You can do anything you want to do!!!
You’re great!
(excuse my sarcasm; I empathize)
tyger1147 - January 28, 2012
Also, I troll my dad pretty hard when I come home
He hates and refuses to give hugs, so I hug him all the time.
Why? Because if your kid cannot force you to do something you don’t want to do, then you are not really a parent.
Lycurgus - January 27, 2012
So... I wrestled from K-6th grade.
In 7th grade, I went out for junior high basketball. I quit wrestling because towards the end of my 6th grade year, I took 2nd place in a tourney in Des Moines – won a trophy nearly as tall as a light hwt 12 year old, and left crying because my dad was yelling at me telling me I should have won.
So i go out for basketball – first organized ever – in 7th grade. In junior high with 500+ 7th graders, about 2/3rds black. I made the B-team. Pretty good, right? Literally the first thing my dad says after I tell him: “Do you think if you would have tried harder, you would have made the A team?” Never mind that a) no white kids made it (take that for whatever you want) b) there were three future DII or DI basketball players on the front line of the A team and c) I HAD NEVER PLAYED BASKETBALL BEFORE!!!
Dad’s can suck from time to time.
tyger1147 - January 28, 2012
Well clearly you weren't trying hard enough
Brock8144 - January 30, 2012
Here is another one.
My dad was really hard up for me to go to prom and I was not really that interested (also I really had/have a hard time talking to girls).
Dad: Why don’t you want to go? What is wrong with you?
Me: I don’t know. There just isn’t anyone I want to go with.
Dad: I don’t give a shit, you are going! Just flip through the phone book and call a damn number!
Me: I am not going to do that.
Dad: You are going to take a date to prom if I have to take you to the bus station and get you a date!
Me: What does that even mean? Are you buying me a prostitute.
Dad: Just call some one!
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
You almost got a free prostitute there
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
I know
would have been better than the girl I took.
Let me just tell you that I ended up eating over one hundred fortune cookies that night and fell asleep listening to the starting qb bang the girl I wanted to go to the dance with. It was awesome.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
I do not see how this experience
could possibly have scarred you towards having problems talking to girls later in life
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
My dad packed my bag of clothes to change into after the dance
I ended up wearing running shorts, which were cut half way up my hip, ankle socks, and a hyper-color t-shirt to the after prom event.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
I wanted to die
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
I can see this want
What a terrible night. I thought my prom was bad because my car broke down on the date and I pushed it onto a side road in my tux, but most of all I didn’t even get a kiss. Yours is worse.
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
So you DID want to go with someone
Dad was right! And she was totally easy, too. Damn!
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
She was taken long before that night
I should have said “There was no one else I wanted to go with”.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
I have to say part of it is your own problem
for wanting a taken girl that was apparently the apple of the #1 alpha dog’s eye. That’s just asking for emotional punishment.
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
It is a little more complicated than that
He actually had a girlfriend, who was in college. He drove his date to the prom in his girlfriend’s dad’s jaguar. I had no idea that he would go with the girl I liked until he she told me. She encouraged me to take her friend, who was cute but not really my type. The situation was fucked.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
girlfriend's dad
has an odd sense of charity
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
He is former Iowa QB Rob Fick
and also ran Mel Foster Real Estate
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
Haha what a douche. Sorry but it's true.
clay-born to party - January 27, 2012
Also
RE: Alpha dog
Just because I am not good speaking to women doesn’t mean I can’t throw down. That guy would not have lasted too long.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
She would have liked him even more than you then
Women.
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
I know
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
I've heard a lot of what you've been talking about
Would you please keep speaking up.
And I’ve never met your dad, but he’s clearly got it twisted:

jtothep - January 26, 2012
My dad says some funny stuff.
Usually you have to put some distance between now and then before you appreciate the humor.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
Sounds like that's what Lubbock is for
jtothep - January 26, 2012
There is nothing funny about Lubbock.
Well, that isn’t true. Sunday brunch buffets are kind of funny, kind of.
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
The expansion of college athletics as a business
is also an influence. It’s now important coaches and administration please boosters, cable networks, uniform suppliers, et al. Suddenly the musings of 17 year old or younger can directly affect several members of a university and their job security.
The Bacon Explosion - January 26, 2012
Excellent point
The stability of a billion dollar enterprise depends on the maturity of teenagers. Not absurd. Not at all.
Blackheartnopants - January 26, 2012 via Android app
"stupid, narcissistic and prone to doing dumb shit"
The problem now (as opposed to “the day”) is that this describes many of the parents as well. Usually there were parents telling kids “Shut up” “we don’t talk like that” “/smack” or whatever. Now, parents think they themselves are special little snowflakes, and the world should bend to them (/child of a boomer syndrome). So naturally many kids these days don’t understand adversity and are waiting for everything to bend to them.
Eyeheartfreedumb - January 27, 2012
Great point.
WaterlooChazz - January 27, 2012
Born in Colorado, raised in Iowa, Born a Colorado fan by familiy, but now am a true Iowa fan, still like to cheer for the buffs out west. Colorado was run into the ground by Hawkins and they will take anything they can get at this point. Embree knows its a win now industry, and to win now you gotta take risks.
waterboy31321 - January 26, 2012
Hawk on the Rocks
Born in Iowa, 3 degrees from Iowa, living in Boulder. Disagree with the statement that “Embree knows its a win now industry”. Jon Embree is a tough nut and will be as good a role model as this kid will find. This past season, he suspended three (3!!!) DBs for violation of team policies for multiple games and it hurt their team badly. Embree must think this kid is fixable because if the kid gets in trouble, he will not see the field under Embree. Every player on the team is required to not only be at every class but to sit in the first 3 rows with pen and notebook in hand. Violation is a suspension, no exceptions. Hopefully the kid learns his lesson.
hawkontherocks - January 26, 2012
sure hes not gonna put up with that crap, thats besides the point that hes knows that its a win now industry and hes willing to take a risk on this kid
Same goes for the Mayor of Ames and his basketball team
waterboy31321 - January 26, 2012
TL, DR
Please focus on finding us – by pressuring our Gum Chewing, Fart Joke telling coach – a new DC instead of spewing your personal opinion which bears no consequence on our, as loyal Hawkeye fans, wishes of wins on the 100 Yard field. Also, thank you so much for quoting the writings of this young man from which inspired this article. Really gives cred to your arguments in not quoting / linking sources for this story about a Colorado recruit…
Harrison Cougars - January 26, 2012
When I first read Staples article there was a link. It's apparently been lifted or I was assumed there was one.
So, here you go and i have included in the article.
http://www.chatsports.com/michigan-wolverines/a/Yuri-Wrights-tweets-are-why-Michigan-stopped-recruiting-him-10-2-1807#.Txg1FhGHUYc.twitter
StoopsMyAss - January 26, 2012
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http://www.chatsports.com/michigan-wolverines/a/Yuri-Wrights-tweets-are-why-Michigan-stopped-recruiting-him-10-2-1807#.Txg1FhGHUYc.twitter
StoopsMyAss - January 26, 2012
as part of the a younger generation
I’ll help you with the html code/button pressing
click here please for SMA’s link
sailorjerry - January 26, 2012
I see someone's enforced timeout is over
HoyaGoon - January 26, 2012
although, he had a point.
StoopsMyAss - January 26, 2012
yes, he had a point
He’s just wrong.
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
He had a valid point about the lack of a link to the tweets.
Everything else… not so much.
RossWB - January 26, 2012
I didn't say it was a "valid" point
Just that at least he had points. So many people will snipe without at least giving us precise reasons to ridicule their obnoxiousness
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
Seriously?
One, there is so little actual news about the DC search as to be farcical; we’ve wrung more blood from that stone than should be physically possible, I think.
Two, are you seriously suggesting that SMA (or any of us) have any ability to find a new DC or (more laughably) pressure Ferentz into making a decision on this point? We could write 3 posts a day decrying the snail-like pace of the DC search and he wouldn’t give two shits about it.
Three, “spewing your personal opinion which bears no consequence”? We write a LOT of things which are technically “inconsequential,” so if that’s really an issue for you — sorry, them’s the breaks. We also write a lot about personal opinions — if that bothers you, then so be it. Our code of conduct eschews religious and political conversations because we want to prevent people from espousing partisan opinions. Those conversations have a tendency to get ugly in a hurry and lead to a lot of partisan sniping. This piece is nothing of the sort.
SMA is expressing his opinion about how current forms of social media have changed individuals’ behavior, especially among athletes. I think it’s very much something worth talking about because issues like this are not going to disappear. The lid is off this particular Pandora’s box; if you ban players or recruits from speaking on Twitter, they’ll post opinions on Facebook or blogs or whatever new platforms emerge. The bigger change that’s going on here is not in the rise of things like Twitter or Facebook, it’s the change in the way people interact with society and the way norms are changing in terms of what’s public info and what’s private info.
RossWB - January 26, 2012
Brilliant
One: Snail-like pace… Almost seems like our offense… There’s a potential DC that you completely forgot about! KOK sliding over to the other side of the ball! After all, he does have experience stopping a B1G offense for over a decade.
Two: Are you sure about that? I think he might be able to pinch one or two off if there was a room full of reporters.
99playsNAblitzaint1 - January 26, 2012
I think what Harrison is attempting to say
Is that he’d rather talk about Prater being a problem at DB.
mikjones24 - January 26, 2012
Don't like it? Don't read it.
If you want to start a different discussion, try a fan post.
Flakbait - January 26, 2012
I'm gonna guess Harrison Cougars is from the "socially overconfident" generation
Also – if he just wants to talk about KF being overpaid or why we Iowa doesn’t have enough 4 star recruits, there are other places to do that.
BHGP occasionally likes to get a bit academic up in here. If you’re not up to the task, don’t participate.
Or get your own blog.
YouCanPutYourEddsInIt - January 26, 2012
A good spot for Harrison?
Cyclone Fanatic. They’d love to have that “conversation.”
Nickhawk08 - January 26, 2012
You sir, are a dick.
HawkeyeRecon - January 26, 2012
You have to love a parochial school...
that takes in a scholarship athlete then expels him for speech rather than running with a teaching moment. Further proof that kids are stupid and that “grown ups” who fancy themselves educators are far too inclined to throw one kid under the bus when another kid’s parents complain.
rosko - January 26, 2012
Too much zero tolerance bullshit today
Just chucking them out doesn’t teach them anything other than “don’t get caught”. Better to show them how to work their way back into the good graces. And also figure out if it’s just a kid being dumb or maybe he could use some help. Without reading the tweets, this almost sounds like a cry for help.
Flakbait - January 26, 2012
To put another fly in the ointment, there could be many, many, many other factors that went into this particular decision to expel. Private schools have contractual codes of conduct, which give the school the right to expel at their discretion. I’m not so much defending the school, as suggesting there might have been other issues in this situation.
txhawkeye - January 26, 2012
As the parent of three parochial school kids
I can promise you that my town’s public school district would ignore the problem totally.
Thoughtful stuff, SMA.
Blackheartnopants - January 26, 2012 via Android app
Sometimes, they don't have a legal leg to stand on.
You almost have to have a clear threat on somebody that got posted on these electronic outlets to take any action.
WaterlooChazz - January 26, 2012
You hear the same shit on a rap album. Sad as that may be...
but it contextualizes his remarks. In the words of Bill Cosby, “kids say the darndest things.”
rosko - January 26, 2012
Zero tolerance is strictly about PR
Eyeheartfreedumb - January 27, 2012
Football season is over, man.
No more need for the kid
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
Didn't his coach tell them to shut it down,
and this kid did not?
I’m a product of parochial schools, and still work in one. They’re not perfect, but I think they tried to help the kid “learn through this teachable moment” a bit more than you give them credit for.
If a student remains defiant, then they have other educational options, like their publicly-guaranteed education.
Basically, he needs to get with the program.
WaterlooChazz - January 26, 2012
Well done Stoops
Since I’m old, and my children are teenagers, the disconnect we deal with in this regard is I was raised, and still live, a largely private life. My children, however, grew up at a time where their familiar is to live a largely public life. This is what they know, and what they spew into the universe is for theirs, and their friends, consumption. They are continually suprised with my admonitions to be cautious, or when “requested” to remove something. Shockingly, their thoughts and pictures are usually not that interesting. Just doing my job to remind them of the fact that someday they’ll be off the payroll, and their days of receiving participation trophies will be over.
txhawkeye - January 26, 2012
Glad to see you keep track of it.
I believe/fear there are so many parents out there that never give two shits about what their kids are doing on facebook, twitter, and other parts of the Net.
WaterlooChazz - January 26, 2012
Kids are way more savvy than their parents about this stuff. Easy to hide. Although a lot of parents are negligent, clueless, or tacitly encourage the behavior
txhawkeye - January 27, 2012
mine are still relatively young
The older one now has the ability to interact with some of her friends on ‘Ping Me’. She knows (as do her friends) that her Ping Me acct is on my phone as well as her Kindle & I can see whatever they talk about should I choose. (They’re only 4th graders.)
Other parents & I remain hopeful as we raise our kids in the age of ever growing social media that maybe there’s some advantage to them being exposed to it all their lives. Teaching them Internet safety started in kindergarten at school, we talk about how you can’t control the tone with which other people may read your words in email, it’s better to have serious discussions face to face or at least by phone & what you post anywhere can be seen by more people than you realize & will outlast us all. Kids will always show poor judgement but maybe this younger generation will have benefit from growing up with all of this. Time will tell.
HawkeyeGirleye - January 27, 2012 via iPhone app
Wow, this is cool
Mine aren’t yet in preschool even, but I’ll be tuned in to this line of the education curricula.
jtothep - January 27, 2012
Our school is definitely on the early adopter side of technology in the classroom
All of the classrooms have smart boards (aka Promethium boards or white boards)- this is our 5th year & I don’t know that I’ve ever seen a piece of chalk used. My 4th grader does most of her homework online using a closed Google network- I can login & see what she’s working on & what comments her teacher has made. Each kid has their own laptop from 4th grade on, too. The district has won national awards for utilizing technology as have several teachers. It’s a double-edged sword, tho- the district was sued by the ACLU for restricting access to certain web sites. (The suit was dismissed.)
HawkeyeGirleye - January 27, 2012 via iPhone app
Norwegian children with keen technological skills
This is a frightening development
Lycurgus - January 27, 2012
We've got the Eastern Bloc
Pretty well covered over here, too. Asia, too. Technology for all the peoples!
HawkeyeGirleye - January 28, 2012
Interesting
Thanks for the post SMA, definitely food for thought.
RGates - January 26, 2012 via Android app
I'm most interested in the "2nd chance" angle.
Does Yuri deserve a “second chance”? What missteps warrant a 2nd chance, and which transgressions are so bad that it forces one to move on?
I personally feel that sometimes institutions or programs get too much heat for attempting to help a kid (we’re talking 18-19-20 year olds here) who’s had a misstep work his way through becoming an adult. These are institutions of learning, after all.
Like we see with some of the football athletes – sometimes these kids need a fresh start elsewhere so they can learn with a cleaner slate.
And sometimes they don’t learn from the mistake and it blows up in your face. That’s par for the course with 19 year olds.
YouCanPutYourEddsInIt - January 26, 2012
Yes, he should get a second chance
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
But a 4th/5th/6th chance ruins him for life
We don’t know where he was in this continuum with his high school, so I’ll hold back a little on the judgment there. Though I will judge them for getting rid of him AFTER his last season of football. I’m too cynical to think that’s specifically by chance.
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
Also, it is not as if not being able to play football is the worst thing in life
sometimes it takes something that disappointing to point some one in the right direction (not that I know what direction that is).
Lycurgus - January 26, 2012
First part is very true, hopefully the last part is not
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
People may be gone from this thread but I agree so so much.
I got a 33 on my ACT’s and thought college would be cake. I went to swim in college and all I did was party, etc. and failed out at the semester. I was able to stay in school on probation but I couldn’t swim the rest of the year. It was pretty devastating and embarassing because it was nobody’s fault but mine. But it also made me realize the importance of going to class, studying, and then if you have extra time do the fun stuff. It has all worked out in the end because I am back on the team and through the last 4 semesters after my bad one I have over a 3.5 gpa. I honestly belived if I hadn’t been put on probation I would have been middling around with 2.0 to 2.5 through college.
clay-born to party - January 27, 2012
Good job
Lycurgus - January 27, 2012
my brother from another mother
same story. Life lessons must be learned the hard way by arrogant fools such as us.
therealCatnuts - January 27, 2012
I'm the sister
God bless Dr. Shibata for taking my side.
HawkeyeGirleye - January 28, 2012
This is an excellent, thought-provoking article
It’s personally funny to me that probably more than half the time I distinctly disagree with SMA’s opinions or angles (not the case with this article), but that I always chalk them up to reasoned opinions from somebody with a different life path, and I always thought primarily brought upon by his being in a different generation with a much different personal life experience. I guess what I’m thinking is that I hope that I’ve been good enough in the past to (and continue to in the future) allow other opinions and life paths in the manner SMA so eloquently puts forth in this article as a path to better humanhood.
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
Very thought provoking piece. I work in technology but am very leary of the social aspects of it.
Some people put everything out there but they have no idea who is seeing it, who is storing it, how it will be used or what possible implications it could have.
HawkeyeRecon - January 26, 2012
I love (am maybe even obsessed with) tech products. But I have zero care for Facebook or Twitter.
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
i'm not sure who said it, but it wasn't me
on facebook i start hating all the people i know, on twitter i love people i’ve never met
sailorjerry - January 26, 2012
Never saw this before
SO awesome!
jtothep - January 26, 2012
My rec is specifically for stealing that.
txhawkeye - January 26, 2012
That's a terrific quote.
Bucketochicken - January 26, 2012
I feel like I'm missing out on a good joke
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
Um, yeah
That’s pretty spot on. Rec.
Captain n Diet Coker - January 26, 2012
I've also heard: Facebook is for the people I know and Twitter is for those I don't.
EnergizerHawk - January 26, 2012
my take, 100%
HawkeyeGirleye - January 27, 2012 via iPhone app
I might re-tweet that.
WaterlooChazz - January 26, 2012
This is the best post i have ever read- anywhere
I intnend to share it with my grandsons
who are both sharp kids,,
my own memories of that time were hormone infested challenges
for a 5’7 240 pugsley
that turned angy and anti war and drug induced
only years later did i realize that i lacked the points of reference
to truly say much sensible
and to refrain from letting my outlashes
letting my freak flag fly
taught me a lot thirty years later
when i finally decided to get clean and sober
and like any father of any child
anquish at finding a way to save kids from themselves
i only hope this young man can learn
and may some day
serve as an example to others
cause thats how we learn
OhioHawk - January 26, 2012
Well, as usual,
I have to disagree with at least something that Stoops typed. (But this is thought-provoking, so job well done, sir).
I don’t think kids will learn much if they are consistently sheltered from consequences. On the other hand, it is nice to see this kid still find a college to go to.
I don’t think this kid was using twitter as a journal. Maybe he wants more friends, but when 1600 people see what you wrote, it isn’t a diary/journal anymore. Twitter needs a tutorial or something, to clarify this.
While what the kid said was pretty nasty at times, it is a little like locker-room talk between team-mates. That stuff can get inappropriate in a hurry. On the other hand, it isn’t the beginning of WW3.
I seem to recall reading that his HS coach told him (and maybe his team-mates) to shut down their twitter accounts, and Yuri kept posting bad comments. Maybe I’m full of it. But, if that was true, then the kid is being at least a little defiant, so I wouldn’t expect the school to coddle him forever. Expulsion might be sever, unless the kid was being repeatedly insubordinate.
Stoops, I’m glad you have found rewards in teaching “those who were considered unteachable.” But, I deal with students with special needs on a daily basis. While I don’t usually deal with kids that are violent or have serious drug/other issues, I do see some that really need to make more effort. They’ll probably be most successful if they unlock as much of their potential as they can.
I certainly don’t have all the answers on this topic, but I do feel like any student can get in the way of, and stay in the way of, their own academic success. I’d say plenty of college students who flunked out are probably fitting of this description.
And, if a football coach (college or high school) tells players to not use twitter or facebook, then it isn’t the end of the world and the death of free speech. Kids can still text, call, and e-mail each other. They can still write letters. They can still talk face-to-face.
WaterlooChazz - January 26, 2012
I meant "expulsion might be severe"
WaterlooChazz - January 26, 2012
TWSS
therealCatnuts - January 26, 2012
dude, nice
sailorjerry - January 27, 2012
I disagree with the premise of this article
The behavior is the problem, not the medium through which it is expressed. Whether he just told his jock friends, or the entire Michigan alumni base, women are not bitches, hos and sex objects, being gay is not an insult, and racism in this day and age is just idiotic.
The kid wasn’t expelled for expressing himself publicly, he was expelled for being so agnostic to the reality of the words he was speaking as to publish them in a public forum. What it comes down to is that the kid’s a jerk, and Michigan is lucky that he didn’t bring his racist, misogynist, homophobic baggage to their campus.
rockyh - January 28, 2012
I think you missed the whole point of the piece
a) I agreed with the suspension because he was wrong
b) plenty of recruits and young people in general share his opinions but because the do not express them they don’t get expelled, they don’t lose scholarship offers and thus….
THEY HAVE LESS CHANGE TO CHANGE because (as you have so eloquently offered up here) without expressing your dumb opinion it never gets a chance to be replaced by a smart opinion.
And I used the Sex Pistols analogy for a reason, because this kid is quoting rap lyrics.
StoopsMyAss - January 28, 2012
Oh, and you don't think Iowa has, on the team right now, players who share some the opinion of some of his tweets?
StoopsMyAss - January 28, 2012
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